I learned quite awhile ago to like criticism, even when it is unsolicited. A critic’s words always have some truth to them. It is all in the way we hear them.
There are times when the harsh tone of voice or unreasonable delivery of the opinion can make our defenses stand up and take note. These are the times the best choice is to be quiet. Invited or not, criticism allows us to see ourselves through someone else’s eyes, and whether right or wrong, the opportunity is there to view what others see in us.
Correctly evaluating criticism is key. Not every complaint is valid and like bellybuttons, everyone has an opinion. When those crushing words come your way, take a moment to consider the words. Do not blame the person or immediately start defending yourself. Ask God to bring clarity and constructive thought to what is being said about you. Thank the person for having the courage to point out a flaw in your character and let them know you will thoughtfully meditate on what is being said. You will know immediately if the person’s intentions are out of love or if they are intended to hurt you.
The disapproval of others can be detrimental if we allow it to be. But, when we take control of what is being said and allow God to show us the truth, we disarm the cruelty of the other person if that is the intent. Already, we have God’s love, acceptance, and approval. By putting it in His hands, we give ourselves the spiritual growth to be the person God longs for us to be.
Proverbs 10:17-18, “17 He is on the path of life who heeds instruction, But he who ignores reproof goes astray. 18 He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool.”
