I love the word “unique.” I love the pattern of letters, the sound of its pronunciation, and even the mispronounced “you-knee-key” as I often say it. I’m a rather oddball kind of person, either-you-like-me-or-you-don’t independent sort, and I’d much rather be called “unique” than some of the other similar monikers used to describe me. Mom taught me to embrace my uniqueness, my one-of-a kind temperament, even when I longed to just fit in with a crowd. She was so right.
I’m now in my 50’s and glad to be unique. I no longer strive to be like anyone else, nor do I even wish it. Although I may in theory wish to assimilate into a gang, the group thing doesn’t appeal to me and I end up pressing my own thoughts and ideas. I often joke that I would be one of the first ones voted off the island in the popular TV series “Survivor.” Although I certainly couldn’t survive the physical challenges, the social game required to fly under the radar is not a skill I own either!
I think often of the readers, whoever you are, who have read Mondays with Mom each week. You are in a unique situation and you perhaps feel alone in your caregiving. Maybe you feel like your situation is so unique, no one could understand what you are going through. Caregiving is an isolating endeavor no matter the age of the one receiving the care. I am grateful to have found a whole community of people who have been through it or are currently going through it. The camaraderie and support is wonderful.
The simple truth is no one will be untouched by caregiving. We may care for a child, a sibling, a spouse, or a parent – or any combination! As the population ages, we are certain to need more geriatric caregivers, but I think it takes a special calling for those who deal with the aging. I am certain there will be more and more resources available. I am dumbfounded by the amount of information now easily accessible compared the time when I first worked in eldercare in the 80’s and 90’s.
All the books and sites in the world don’t compare to having friends and family to walk with the caregiver. Just as each situation is unique, so are caregivers. We all need a safe place to land at the end of a hard day. So, to each of you sharing in this journey with me, I hope and pray you find your unique way to survive these tough moments.
